Like so many, growing up in my family was challenging, without the sensitivity, care, and love that I craved, and needed. I learned to be very self-sufficient and became exceedingly good at not only taking care of myself, but also taking care of others. It was a useful tactic to feel valuable, and even wanted… for a while. And, like all things without a solid foundation, it was not sustainable.
As an adult, in my ongoing attempt to find security and get the love I desperately wanted, I married: first, to an alcoholic, and then, to someone who was never fully committed or two feet in. For the over-achiever in me, these situations fit. I kept trying and working hard and accepting scraps… at the expense of abandoning my own needs, and myself.
I was single for many years, and when I landed myself in another relationship, not knowing whether to stay or leave, I still felt like a victim of my family system: estranged from my mother, disconnected from my twin sister, and longing for more genuineness with my father.
I had survived cancer, gotten a degree, even started my own business, but for what purpose?
I still felt empty and discouraged.
Did life really need to be this lonely and hard? What was I doing wrong?
I kept diligently trying without seeming to make any real progress or significant changes, and I couldn’t get off the proverbial hamster wheel. It seemed like life, and especially good relationships, weren't on my side. My days were filled with angst, struggle, and depression... and yet, a small part of me endured, the part that wanted something different and knew there was more. Fortunately, it was big enough to spark a flame within me.
I wanted to live and thrive, but didn't really know how. So I started learning.
As I began to see myself more clearly, I reclaimed my sensitivity and even the identity as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I explored my own patterns of scarcity and self-abandonment in relationship – where they came from and how they were still playing out. And I got clearer. I left my current situation. I practiced and studied and shared what I was learning with anyone who would listen. Through a lot of tears, deep investigation, shifts in perspective, and remarkable insights I began to find my way.
I am now closer to the life I envision for myself. While the years spent as a capable, strong, independent woman gave me some sense of value and self-worth, and belief in my abilities, at times that independence actually hurt more than it helped me. What looked like confidence on the outside has become a genuine seed of self-assuredness and acceptance growing within me and I’m more comfortable in my own skin than ever before, willing to share real vulnerabilities and real strengths, instead of being neutral and playing it safe.
This is an ongoing process that still takes practice, and self-care, every day. But instead of feeling like life is against me, I see it as a rich road inviting me to journey on… and navigate the challenges, relational and otherwise, as a way to grow and reap the rewards while learning to love bigger, along the way.
WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING
“Jennifer has been very instrumental in my healing process... reminding me to be accountable and to own my triggers, knowing that these are very critical steps in my journey to self-love and acceptance. She has taught me time and again to reflect if ‘I still have myself’ especially during confusing times, to feel into my body, and to trust that it knows what my mind has yet to understand. More importantly, she creates a safe space that allows me to be vulnerable and supports me in delicate and pivotal moments.
Jennifer has helped me chip away layers I did not know I had, and with the work we have done so far, I can honestly say that I am finally feeling a little closer to myself.”
— J.C., New York, USA
"Jennifer's way of helping us feel more understood by each other has supported us to stay in some difficult conversations – where we can sometimes get stuck on our own or avoid all together. She is fair, non-judgmental, and really rooting for "us" – which has us both feel more relaxed, less scared to go into those tough spots, and more present and connected in our relationship.”
"I deeply value your insights and feedback. I really feel that I got a lot out of our time together. Thank you! I feel so grateful!"
— L.G. & P.H., Vermont, USA
— S.B., Colorado, USA
"Since working with Jennifer my relationship with my wife has become is stronger, deeper and more loving that it has ever been. The work with Jennifer got me over some large identity blockers I held onto...
I often refer back to my notes from my work with Jennifer and share them with my partner, and they have a continual daily impact.”
— J.J., Winchester, United Kingdom
“I have shared with Jennifer before how grateful I am for her guidance. And what’s super alive for me is just how much I appreciate her very strong, super intuitive, caring, and sensitive nature!
I experience Jennifer as having an incredible gift of being able to drop into a session and get what is happening, and be such an incredible and powerful guide. I also really love that she consistently calls me forward.
I wouldn’t be the coach or the woman I am without Jennifer’s guidance. Thank you.”
— A.R., Massachusetts, USA
"I have been feeling stuck, scared, and panicked about what’s next. And in simply naming my fear and panic, out loud, I realized I am not alone... And in that experience of giving voice to these thoughts, I realized those voices were crowding out my soul’s voice.
I then gave voice to my soul, which desires the freedom to do what I want, where I want, how I want and with whomever I choose. And I took a huge, soft breath and let that in.
Jennifer helped guide me in 15 minutes to the clarity I had needed. In voicing my soul’s desire, I turned up the volume on her voice, turning down the others. My body softened, and my breath was more easeful."
— A.B., Planet Earth
“With a focus on setting the right foundation for our amazing relationship, there are only a few people we would trust with such an endeavor, and thanks to our experience with Jennifer, we were able to grow in our understanding of each other and how to communicate better − especially during times of conflict. I highly recommend her to anyone that's looking to reignite that spark or set your new relationship up for success from the beginning. We couldn’t be more thankful!”
— D.D. & V.P., USA/Australia
I believe that living a deeply fulfilling life is possible - with effort, willingness, curiosity, commitment, and time. Holding the view that love equals both support and challenge, the capacity to experience love expands. Relationships reveal this to us daily. Along with the bliss comes the discomfort, there are times of ease as well as struggle. This is the dance, full of joy and pleasure – and pain.
How can we use the pain and see it as an opportunity, a beginning, a place to learn, to grow, to heal?
How can we plant our own seeds, tend to them, and create forests of magnificent relationships?
This is the journey that inspires me. And I'd like to hear about yours.
I currently offer reconnective sessions and experiences for individuals and couples.
If you are ready to learn and grow – in yourself and your relationship(s) – and take on the work of communication, self-worth, getting clear about your wants and needs, creating connection to your own body and experience, and getting out of your own way.
I can help. I want to help.
Apply to work with me today! And, let's meet to make sure we are a good match.