I love to learn. And I find that relationships provide one of the richest contexts I know of for learning - about communication, conflict, individual needs and wants, myself and another, how we operate and navigate life together, and ultimately, about being human, what love really is, and how to love bigger.
Through years of daily practice in the realms of dance, yoga, meditation, and now relationships, I've seen every day how discipline and commitment yield a certain steadiness and build a foundation for growth and embodiment. It's tangible! And transformational. I believe that anyone willing to do the work can reap the rewards. Anyone.
I began my coaching education following two marriages – one to an alcoholic, the other a strategic attempt to feel safe. Both ended, and I found myself in another relationship not knowing whether to stay or leave. At the time I felt like a victim of my family system, estranged from my mother and disconnected from my twin sister. I had survived cancer, but for what purpose? I kept trying and working hard without seeming to make any real progress or ability to make any changes. It seemed life, especially good relationships, weren't on my side. My days were filled with angst, struggle, and depression... and yet, a small part of me endured. I wanted to live, but didn't really know how. It was this part of me, that wanted something different, that said 'YES' when I saw the ad offering relationship education and conflict skills.
As I started to see my own patterns in relationship – where they came from and how they were still playing out. I got clear, left my relationship, and started to learn. I practiced and studied and shared what I was learning with anyone who would listen. Through a lot of tears, self-care, shifts in my perspective, and remarkable insights and friendships I am now closer to the life I have envisioned for myself. It's still a practice, every day. But instead of life feeling against me, I see it as a rich road inviting me to navigate relational challenges as a way to reap the rewards while gaining acceptance and confidence, and learning to love bigger, along the way.
It’s my desire for others to know that a mutual, reciprocal relationship is possible. And not only that… relationships are actually a place where we can heal and thrive! From a-ha moments to deep vulnerability and tenderness, I want to experience, witness and listen to it all.
I launched my training and with Jayson Gaddis in 2014, completing both individual and couples coaching training certifications through The Relationship School in 2017 and 2018, and going on to assist in courses and supervision as a Trained Mentor. I continue to study and gain knowledge about Trauma, Adult Attachment and Internal Family Systems (IFS) and learn from Gabor Maté Terry Real, Alexandra Solomon, Esther Perel, and so many others while supporting my clients to acquire, practice, and apply relationship skills in their lives.
I currently offer individual and couples sessions, supervision sessions for coaches and coaches-in-training, as well as women's circles and small group coaching containers for both women and men.
Living in a cabin on a lake amidst the chipmunks, birds, and deer (and trees!) the sense of spaciousness gives me the inspiration to persevere and pursue my own expansion – within myself, and with others.
I look forward to being with and diving in with you.
WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING
“Jennifer has been very instrumental in my healing process... reminding me to be accountable and to own my triggers, knowing that these are very critical steps in my journey to self-love and acceptance. She has taught me time and again to reflect if ‘I still have myself’ especially during confusing times, to feel into my body, and to trust that it knows what my mind has yet to understand. More importantly, she creates a safe space that allows me to be vulnerable and supports me in delicate and pivotal moments.
Jennifer has helped me chip away layers I did not know I had, and with the work we have done so far, I can honestly say that I am finally feeling a little closer to myself.”
— J.C., New York, USA
"Jennifer's way of helping us feel more understood by each other has supported us to stay in some difficult conversations – where we can sometimes get stuck on our own or avoid all together. She is fair, non-judgmental, and really rooting for "us" – which has us both feel more relaxed, less scared to go into those tough spots, and more present and connected in our relationship.”
"I deeply value your insights and feedback. I really feel that I got a lot out of our time together. Thank you! I feel so grateful!"
— L.G. & P.H., Vermont, USA
— S.B., Colorado, USA
"Since working with Jennifer my relationship with my wife has become is stronger, deeper and more loving that it has ever been. The work with Jennifer got me over some large identity blockers I held onto...
I often refer back to my notes from my work with Jennifer and share them with my partner, and they have a continual daily impact.”
— J.J., Winchester, United Kingdom
“I have shared with Jennifer before how grateful I am for her guidance. And what’s super alive for me is just how much I appreciate her very strong, super intuitive, caring, and sensitive nature!
I experience Jennifer as having an incredible gift of being able to drop into a session and get what is happening, and be such an incredible and powerful guide. I also really love that she consistently calls me forward.
I wouldn’t be the coach or the woman I am without Jennifer’s guidance. Thank you.”
— A.R., Massachusetts, USA
"I have been feeling stuck, scared, and panicked about what’s next. And in simply naming my fear and panic, out loud, I realized I am not alone... And in that experience of giving voice to these thoughts, I realized those voices were crowding out my soul’s voice.
I then gave voice to my soul, which desires the freedom to do what I want, where I want, how I want and with whomever I choose. And I took a huge, soft breath and let that in.
Jennifer helped guide me in 15 minutes to the clarity I had needed. In voicing my soul’s desire, I turned up the volume on her voice, turning down the others. My body softened, and my breath was more easeful."
— A.B., Planet Earth
“With a focus on setting the right foundation for our amazing relationship, there are only a few people we would trust with such an endeavor, and thanks to our experience with Jennifer, we were able to grow in our understanding of each other and how to communicate better − especially during times of conflict. I highly recommend her to anyone that's looking to reignite that spark or set your new relationship up for success from the beginning. We couldn’t be more thankful!”
— D.D. & V.P., USA/Australia
I believe that living a deeply fulfilling life is possible - with effort, willingness, curiosity, commitment, and time. Holding the view that love equals both support and challenge, the capacity to experience love expands. Relationships reveal this to us daily. Along with the bliss comes the discomfort, there are times of ease as well as struggle. This is the dance, full of joy and pleasure – and pain.
How can we use the pain and see it as an opportunity, a beginning, a place to learn, to grow, to heal?
How can we plant our own seeds, tend to them, and create forests of magnificent relationships?
This is the journey that inspires me. And I'd like to hear about yours.
I currently offer reconnective sessions and experiences for individuals and couples.
If you are ready to learn and grow – in yourself and your relationship(s) – and take on the work of communication, self-worth, getting clear about your wants and needs, creating connection to your own body and experience, and getting out of your own way.
I can help. I want to help.
Apply to work with me today! And, let's meet to make sure we are a good match.