I love to learn. And I find that relationships provide one of the richest contexts I know of for learning - about communication, conflict, individual needs and wants, myself and another, how we operate and navigate life together, and ultimately, about being human and what love really is.
Through years of daily practice in the realms of dance, yoga, meditation, and now relationships, I've seen every day how discipline and commitment yield a certain steadiness and build a foundation for growth and learning to be embodied. It's tangible! And transformational. I believe that anyone willing to do the work can reap the rewards. Anyone.
I began my coaching education following two marriages – one to an alcoholic, the other a strategic attempt to feel safe. Both ended, and I found myself in another relationship not knowing whether to stay or leave. At the time I felt like a victim of my family system, estranged from my mother and disconnected from my twin sister. I had survived cancer, but for what purpose? I kept trying and working hard without seeming to make any real progress or ability to make any changes. It seemed life, especially good relationships, weren't on my side. My days were filled with angst, struggle, and depression... and yet, a small part of me endured. I wanted to live, but didn't really know how. It was this part of me, that wanted something different, that said YES when I saw the ad offering relationship education and conflict skills.
I began to see my own patterns in relationship – where they came from and how they were still playing out. I got clear, left my relationship, and started to learn. I practiced and studied and shared what I was learning with anyone who would listen. Through a lot of tears, self-care, shifts in my perspective, and remarkable insights and friendships I am now closer to the life I have envisioned for myself. It's still a practice, every day. But instead of life feeling against me, I see it as a rich road inviting me to navigate relational challenges as a way to reap the rewards while gaining acceptance and confidence, and learning to love bigger, along the way.
It’s my desire for others to know that a mutual, reciprocal relationship is possible. And not only that… relationships are actually a place where we can heal and thrive! From a-ha moments to deep vulnerability and tenderness, I want to experience, witness and listen to it all.
I began working with Jayson Gaddis in 2014, completing both individual and couples coaching training certifications in 2017 and 2018, incorporating knowledge about Adult Attachment and Internal Family Systems (IFS). I continue to learn through The Relationship School, Terry Real, Esther Perel, Alexandra Solomon, and so many others while supporting my clients to acquire, practice, and apply relationship skills in their lives. I currently offer individual and couples sessions, as well as supervision sessions for coaches and coaches-in-training.
Living in a cabin on a lake amidst the chipmunks, birds, and deer (and trees!) the sense of spaciousness gives me the inspiration to persevere and pursue my own expansion – within myself, and with others.
I look forward to being with and diving in with you.
I believe that living a deeply fulfilling life is possible - with effort, willingness, curiosity, commitment, and time. Holding the view that love equals both support and challenge, the capacity to experience love expands. Relationships reveal this to us daily. Along with the bliss comes the discomfort, there are times of ease as well as struggle. This is the dance, full of joy and pleasure – and pain.
How can we use the pain and see it as an opportunity, a beginning, a place to learn, to grow, to heal?
How can we plant our own seeds, tend to them, and create forests of magnificent relationships?
This is the journey that inspires me. And I'd like to hear about yours.
I currently offer reconnective sessions and experiences for individuals and couples, as well as coaching supervision sessions, in various time increments, so you can decide what's right for you.
Schedule your session with me today!